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The holiday letter has traditionally been a way of letting extended family and friends know what’s going on in your life and the lives of your immediate family. While not everyone decides to send a December dispatch, many people do, particularly when an elderly loved one who is ill or can’t travel is involved.
The key to a well-written holiday letter is maintaining a delicate dance between truth and embellishment, reality and aspiration. Achieving this balance is a tricky task regardless of your circumstances, but it becomes even more difficult if you’re responsible for taking care of an aging loved one.
How do you tell friends and family about Mom’s declining health? Do you have to feign optimism for the sake of appearing calm and in control? What do you say to family members who you feel have abandoned you? If you feel compelled to write a holiday letter to friends and family this year, keep the following pointers in mind.
Your first step is to stop, take a deep breath and decide whether you really want to write a holiday letter. Even if your yearly missive has been a fixture of the family festivities, you shouldn’t feel as though you have to keep doing it just because it’s a tradition.
“The holidays are a great time to stop and reflect on life,” says Cindy Laverty, caregiver coach, radio talk show host and author. “The year I chose not to get caught up in all the hype, everything changed for me. I began making my own rules.”
As a caregiver, you have enough on your plate already. Tweaking your holiday responsibilities so that you can actually enjoy this time of year is not just understandable, it’s often necessary. If you decide to go through with this plan, make sure you’re writing your letter for the right reasons. In other words, you’re doing so to update family and friends, to reminisce about the events of the past year, and to re-connect with people you may have fallen out of touch with. Letters that arrive with a wholly negative spin, even though they may be honest and heartfelt, are not likely to be received well or reciprocated.
Before putting pen to paper (or fingers to keyboard), Laverty says you should ask yourself one question: “What would I write about my life and caregiving if this was the last holiday I spent with my loved one?”
Use this question as a starting point to determine the purpose and tone of your letter. It also helps to brainstorm some highlights or events that you want to mention in your letter before you begin writing.
Laverty offers the following suggestions for how to appropriately address sensitive caregiving topics in a holiday letter.
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